Stop Policing My Daughter's Appetite

'You're not going to eat all of that, are you?' said a stranger in a café to my four year old daughter Violet. 

Violet was tucking into a slab of chocolate cake with ice cream on the side. The woman meant her comment to be friendly, but it was the only thing she commented on to Violet.

Violet is in kindergarten and already people — even complete strangers — are judging her food choices, intimating that she should distrust these choices and that her appetite should be ignored.  

What’s worse, Violet is learning that women policing other women’s appetites is a great conversation starter, or even a bonding ritual.